Poll: It’s about your marriage

I hate these scale assessments because what I think is a 9, someone else may think of as a 7. In my opinion, a scale of 1-5 is a little less subjective. That said, thanks for making me take a moment and really think through this! For me, a 10 would be perfect. In my opinion, everything can be improved upon. For that reason, I’d rarely score anything a 10. I scored us a 9. In my mind, a 9 says, “things are good – normal – although we have our difficulties from time to time. There’s room for improvement.” Then, it gets difficult. Obviously, this isn’t the gospel, but an 8 might mean a greater level or number of difficulties, shifting the “good” line a bit. A 7 might shift the good line a bit more, perhaps to a point of selfishness or where difficulties slightly outnumber “good”. A 6 may indicate our difficulties require help or counseling, although you probably should have sought that long before now. A 5 requires more frequent counseling. At 4, our marriage is clearly suffering from a disability of some sort. 3 might mean a severe disability or terminal illness in our marriage. A 2 requires immediate emergency intervention. Death of the marriage may be imminent. A 1, divorce is formalized. 0, death of the marriage occurs.