7 Steps for Do-It-Yourself Surgery


I’ve never written a blog post from inside the confines of a doctor’s office, but unfortunately I’m stuck here all day. I’m having Mohs Surgery to remove more skin cancer.

As a child of the 70’s in Southern California I was painfully naive to the potential skin damage that was waiting in my future. Honestly, all I remember about sun protection was the Coppertone ads (and the girl’s bikini bottom being pulled down by a dog). Sunburns sucked, but being tan was a high value as a teenager, so Coppertone simply blocked my bronze potential. Instead of sunscreen, I opted for baby-oil (and Hawaiian Tropic).

Needles to say, 30 years later I have a very intimate and frequent relationship with my dermatologist. He’s a great guy, but standing before him in my underwear every 3 months while he scans every inch of my body, and then reports his findings to a nearby female scribe isn’t my idea of a party. But, it’s my reality.

Today, the cancer is being cut out. Then it will be evaluated. Then, if any signs of cancer are still remaining in the margins of the cut tissue, a larger cut is made. This procedure will continue today until the margins are clean and the cancer is gone.

In this quiet office I’ve been reflecting on the steps taken to eradicate the cancer and how they’re actually similar steps toward removing the cancer residing within one’s inner world.

Here’s what I’m thinking: what if those of us who follow Jesus charted a similar course that I take to rid myself of skin cancer?

Consider the similarities…here’s what I’ve done to treat the skin cancer:

1. I realized the need to be evaluated.

2. I went to someone who could help.

3. The “problem” areas were thoroughly investigated and recorded.

4. Surgical plans were made to eradicate the problem.

5. Surgery will be performed.

6. A close inspection follows to ensure the problem is eliminated.

7. A regular follow up is schedule to safeguard against the problem returning.

I realize that dealing with the dark issues that loom in the soul are much more difficult to identify than a mole or freckle changing its shape. But I also know that the insidious inner cancer within the heart of today’s leader is easy to hide.

Another year just passed and it was filled with stories and headlines of Christ-following leaders who didn’t tend to their inner world and their leadership died. At this time last year, they appeared “healthy” (at least from a distance) but their “inner cancer” wounded their ministries.

Pride. Untamed Anger. Lust. Selfish Ambition. Greed. Jealousy. Deep Insecurity. Revenge. Wounded Relationships. Lack of Forgiveness. Mean Spirit. Inappropriate Relationships.

What else?

What’s the sickness that you’ve been hiding that could destroy your leadership and/or ministry? Don’t tell me. Instead, find someone who can help you prepare for the needed surgery. Invite others to the table of honesty and deal with it before it deals out its own form of pain.

Please don’t allow another year to slip by without taking steps toward healing. None of us are immune.

Thoughts? Comments?


 

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  • Darren Sutton

    Doug – I’m sorry you had to write this post in your underwear.  (At least, that’s what I heard!)   Awesome insights and so needed!!  Thanks for the reminder….and for being able to use an awkward and concerning experience to benefit the Kingdom.  Praying that one cut is all that’s needed.

    • Doug Fields

      you should see some of the stuff I wear when I write… well, maybe you shouldn’t see.

  • http://brandonweldy.wordpress.com Brandon Weldy

    I have become very passionate about this. I knew a leader (the preacher of the church I was volunteering at) who fell to sexual sin and ruined his marriage as well as seriously hurt 2 congregations (he was preaching at a church plant as well). If he had taken the time to go to someone for help and brought the temptation to light he would have been much better protected. I’m tired of people (myself included) who just keep hiding everything because we can deal with it. We can’t! Cut the sin off at the source, find someone who can help. Sin separates us from God and destroys our lives. Jesus has offered us a much better life, why do we keep settling? Thanks for this post!

    • Anonymous

      Brandon…I think those of us who have experienced the “aftermath” and “shrapnel” of other leaders imploding feel a little more personal toward this. df

  • Kbenaey

    Wow, thank you Doug. Nice work.  You are a blessing to all.

  • http://www.facebook.com/atruerolemodel Ashlie Olsen

    Great lesson from simply living life. I often wish we didn’t rate sins so much. As in, it is easy for a leader to talk to someone about struggling with lying but not with a struggle such as lust or pornography. You’re right. They both need dealt with and just because one is easier to see than the other doesn’t mean either is any less cancer.

  • http://myendofthedeal.com/ brianseidel

    Thanks for your thoughts and insight, always helpful.  I prayed for you (and your skin cancer) today.

  • Brian Maag

    as usual you make me think….even in your underwear (frankly i had to read this with my eyes closed once i realized you were in your underwear)….and as men the hard part is “find someone who can help you prepare for the needed surgery.”…pride … and most certainly a pride-fulness that tells us we shouldn’t get, or can’t ask, or don’t need, help from someone else….just thinkin’ ….and maybe the biggest we don’t deserve help!

  • http://youthnativity.org Christopher Wesley

    Doug, 
    Great post and very powerful for the beginning of a new year.  I often find pulling what’s inside out into the open is a painful experience and while getting someone who can help is important, I think finding a team to support you and hold you accountable is a must.  Then we are less likely to hide from the excuses that may hold us back from a regular check up.

    • Anonymous

      yep! well stated…love the thought of a team “knowing the truth”

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  • Terrace Crawford

    This is so good, Doug.  I’ve found a few things popping up in my heart and life over the last few years.  I try to address them quickly because I don’t want them to become an issue for me.  There have been others though, that pop up (or reveal themselves) — interestingly enough its been in times of crisis or struggle — that have been harder to deal with. I’ve taken many of the measures you mentioned to address those ones too.

    Over the course of the last year I’ve whispered couple prayers:  David’s prayer “Search my heart….”  and  also “God perform heart surgery on me and heal my heart” because he ultimately knows what I need, what areas I struggle with better than I do.  I can say, He’s definitely been at work.  It’s so great to know we can trust Him.
     
    –@terracecrawford

    • Anonymous

      Amen! Good that you’re asking those questions.

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