5 ways to maximize your day of rest

In 1.5 years of blogging, I don’t think I’ve taken a post I’ve written for another blog and posted it here–until today. This posted yesterday at HomeWord.com (as one of their daily devotionals) and it has created a lot of conversation with the group of leaders I’ve been meeting with and speaking to at the Orange Conference. So, I thought I’d re-post it here.

Leaders are in need of rest!

For in six days the LORD made the heavens, the earth, the sea, and everything in them; but on the seventh day He rested. That is why the LORD blessed the Sabbath day and set it apart as holy. —Exodus 20:11

It seems as though almost daily I read an email from a Christian leader who is tired and burnt out. There is so much about life that is exhausting! I know this firsthand. It’s real and it’s ugly.

Many leaders don’t even slow down enough to be faithful to God’s call for Sabbath, which simply means, to rest. I received some great advice early on from a mentor who urged me to faithfully guard and protect that day of rest. My mentor was right!

But, without intentional action, it’s simply too easy to slip into justifying non-Sabbath actions like, “I’m just going to pop into the office,” or “I’m so far behind, I just need to catch up.”

I’m afraid that many Christian leaders have little clue about what the Sabbath is or how it is observed. Certainly among Christians (in general), there are many different views and practices of the Sabbath. There’s no doubt that it can get confusing.

I understand that the Sabbath doesn’t come in a one-size-fits-all experience, but for what it’s worth, here’s how I typically approach my day. On the Sabbath day, I want to experience as many of the following as possible:

• Relaxation. I take it easy. I sleep in. I don’t fill the day with a lot of activities. I try to maintain an attitude of rest throughout the day.

• Recreation. I usually feel better and accelerate my rest after some form of exercise. It may be at the gym, but it’s usually a long walk or hike with my wife, Cathy.

• Relationships. Any time I choose to spend time with someone on my Sabbath, it is a relationship that inspires me, breathes into me, and is rewarding for me. No work, just friendship.

• Reading. For me, so much of my reading during the week focuses on speaking or sermon preparation. So, for my Sabbath, I choose light and fun reading.

• Reflection/Restoration. Reflection describes my extended time with God. I’ll usually reflect on the past week, look through my calendar, and think about what I might have missed that God had laid out for me.

There is no usual order to these areas. I just try to experience them all throughout the day.

My prayer is that the Sabbath becomes a weekly day of refreshment for you and your family, and an anticipated highlight of your week!

Question: What’s the obstacle in your life toward making this happen? I bet you’re not alone. Please share it here.



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Does ministry effectiveness ultimately end up being about the numbers?


Is ministry all about numbers?

I guess it depends on whom you ask!

Most youth ministry leaders (whom I talk with or write me) feel the “numbers’ pressure” connected to their performance as a leader.

Last week Terrace Crawford wrote a post with an intriguing title, “New Scorecard for Measuring Success.” I quickly clicked on the link hoping to find something new. Unfortunately, he didn’t have a new scorecard, but his post got me thinking.

He wrote:
“I get sick of hearing from youth workers all over the nation who get treated so poorly by their leadership (and even fired) because they aren’t producing enough numbers.”

I hear those same frustrations from my youth ministry friends.

As an alternative idea to get the discussion going, Terrace offered an excerpt from a job description from Granger Community Church (which is a great church–find his entire post here):

“Many youth pastors measure their success on what they can do. The person [new hire] in this role will measure success by what they equip others to do.”

While this is a nice way to communicate the bigger leadership picture of expectations, my strong assumption is that this great job opportunity will still will result in numbers.

Don’t get me wrong, I like the leadership principle they communicate! It’s a valid expectation–leaders will be help accountable to develop and empower other leaders. They’re essentially stating that we’re not hiring a person to come in and do everything him/herself. Ministry happens through others. I agree 100% and wrote extensively about it in Your First Two Years in Youth Ministry.

But, at the end of the day, this new, lead youth ministry hire will be evaluated by the number of teenagers who are being reached and disciple by the “others.” He/She will ultimately be “successful” in helping others reach/disciple teenagers. It still comes down to numbers and attendance.

Numbers are how most youth workers are evaluated.

Why? Because numbers are important to most churches!

Proof? All you need to do is track a few pastors on Twitter and go back their Easter tweets and you’d see an unusual amount of humble/brag tweets connected to their attendance? It’s so ingrained into our church culture—numbers, numbers, numbers–bigger is better.

I’ve heard ALL the arguments for/against numbers… passionately represented from both sides. And honestly, I can find some agreement with both sides, maybe because I’ve “resided” on both sides.

For 29 years I received a church paycheck and I always felt the spoken (and/or unspoken) attendance/numbers’ pressure. I hated it then… and, I hate it now (as the sole evaluator of one’s effectiveness).

For the last 2.5 years I’ve been a volunteer youth worker and currently feel freed of the numbers’ game/pressure. While I love the idea of more teens coming to Jesus and engaging with other followers and being an active part of the Kingdom, I don’t feel the personal pressure (that I once did) for more numbers.

My point for this post isn’t to illicit more arguments for OR against the numbers’ issue. My desire to find out if anyone out there (in “church world”) has developed a different type of scorecard for evaluating effectiveness that doesn’t ultimately end back with attendance. Is it even possible?

Bottom line: I don’t know any leader or church who uses a metric that isn’t heavily influence on numbers. Do you? If so, I’d love to know what it is. Please share it here.

Question: Besides numbers, how else might youth workers be evaluated? Add your thoughts to this looming discussion HERE.

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Do you know a church like this?


Quite often I get email questions that I can’t answer and pass them on to the YouthMinistryGarage podcast, but occasionally I’ll post a question like the one below.

Can you help this youth worker? Know of any church that is doing this?

Context: We are a big, downtown church that has had a tradition of having a youth ministry that is both building-centered and youth staff-centered.

Realization: That casting many small nets of ministry, instead of one/large programatic net have proven to be more fruitful.

Dream: To have smaller youth ministries all over the city, on various nights, with various “personalities,” etc. Each group would learn, serve, laugh, worship in these smaller groups across the city, while we would slowly disband the big-group stuff downtown… as it is losing steam. This new way of thinking allows us to really equip our current volunteers, bring more parents into the picture, and we hope friends would feel more safe going to one of these groups than they do our “big brick castle.”



Question: Who is doing this type of youth ministry? We’re looking for models, conversations, and the ability to learn from others. Who is doing it? Share it here.


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