12 Accountability Questions

Today Jim Burns and I were talking about some of the men and women we know who have flamed-out/crashed-and-burned/failed in ministry. Of the ones we know personally, it’s pretty easy to point to the fact that they don’t have real friends asking the tough questions. They were busy leaders who were doing ministry alone.

What about you? Do you have someone in your life who will ask you the tough questions so you don’t become isolated or the Emperor [leader] with no clothes?

We made a list of 12 Accountability Questions that we’re considering inserting into HomeWord’s leadership stream. As we develop team and encourage community within ministry leaders, we’re wondering if 2 or 3 of these questions might have some power to trigger good, authentic conversation. We realize that accountability is only as good as the honesty it connects to–which is why we added #12.

Here’s a rough draft of our list:

1. Do you like the person you are becoming?
2. Is your heart for God shrinking or growing?
3. Are you giving your family only your emotional table scraps?
4. Have you done anything that compromised your integrity with the opposite sex?
5. Have you compromised your integrity with finances?
6. Is your character submitted to Christ?
7. Are you faithfully involved with worship and service?
8. Is your pace of life sustainable?
9. Have you allowed a person or circumstance to rob you of joy?
10. Are you taking care of your body through physical exercise, proper eating and sleeping habits?
11. Have you been faithful to regular connections with Jesus?
12. Have you lied on any of your answers with me?

Question: What do you think? Good? Bad? Helpful? What are we missing? Would love for you to add your voice to the conversation. Share your thoughts here.

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  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=613394050 Jesse Blasdel

    Those are great questions!

    I have an accountability team of 3 guys (all Pastors at our church are required to have one, it’s awesome. They get some training and everything.)

    Two things they regularly ask me that are helpful are:
    1. What places are you putting energy that you shouldn’t be? Or, what places do you need to cut back your time to do what God is asking you to do right now?

    2. Where do you see God working in your ministry right now? It’s really easy to get caught up in my own brokenness or in what is going wrong and miss the beautiful things God is doing in students, and their families, lives.

    My accountability team makes sure I remain encouraged, not by the job I do, but by what God is doing.

    One last bonus question that I love when they ask me: How can I pray for you?

    My accountability team is helping me be healthy for a lifetime of ministry, not just a few years.

    • dougfields

      Love it! I’m going to steal this line: “My accountability team is helping me be healthy for a lifetime of ministry, not just a few years.”

  • Tyler

    I love where these questions are going…only concern is that they are closed questions. (Yes or No). I would try to leave them open ended so we could respond more authentically.

    • dougfields

      yep…good catch.

  • Tom

    Great questions…now praying to find accountability partners.

    • dougfields

      that’s 90% of the battle!

  • Tokyo Kathy

    Who have you given permission to confront you about areas where they see you straying or making unwise decisions? How willingly do you accept correction?

    What is something you have done over the past week that you regret and how do you plan to correct or amend that issue?

    Are you holding an unforgiven hurt in your heart towards someone? What are you doing to surrender it to God?

    • dougfields

      helpful…thanks for adding to the conversation.

  • Heather

    I like No. 12. I imagine that there have been many people in relationships that call for accountability that would like an invitation to ‘fess up, even in that kind of conversation! I would add something about Scripture and prayer. Those things can be as part of the answer No. 11, but they’re too important to let slip out of one’s life. Also, what are you consuming…media-wise, might be good to consider. Good stuff!

    • dougfields

      love the add about “media”… can be so distracting to really living.

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